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The Power of Placing Positive Words Where You Can See Them

When bad days and difficult emotions present themselves, it’s easy to feel like giving up. I am on my on journey to overcome these bad days and embrace these emotions, but have been learning some awesome things along the way and practicing something so simple that has started to rework the way I approach life daily.

I was listening to a podcast focused on recovery for a specific type of anxiety disorder, OCD, and the therapist being interviewed talked about one of the best analogies I’ve heard for facing your fears and working to overcome the type of anxiety that couples itself with OCD.

I feel like this analogy is super relevant in everyone’s life even if you don’t suffer from anxiety or OCD. All of us have specific fears, reservations in life and absolutely everyone comes face to face with bad days and difficult emotions.

The therapist started to talk about the difference between cows and buffalo when a thunderstorm is coming their way. She said, cows being scared of the storm, start to run from it hoping they can ultimately avoid it altogether. The ironic thing is, that no matter how fast they run, the storm catches up and they still get stuck in it, but are now exhausted from running. Oppositely, buffalo decide to run towards the storm, knowing that if they run through it they will get out of it faster and will be able to rest sooner. How funny? I thought this analogy was so perfect for embracing fear, those bad days, and difficult emotions we can push down and bottle up. It is also so counterintuitive to how we are wired as humans, to run, to take flight and most of the time avoid what scares us.

I’ve been trying to fully embrace this idea in my life of running towards the storm. Another therapist puts it this way, “It’s a great day to do hard things.”

I decided to write down short mantras/ideas like the ones above I can read and absorb each day. I took some sticky notes and placed them all over my bathroom mirror. This way I read them and let them sink in more and more. At the top of the sticky notes I have the word Perseverance written. It’s the word I chose for this season of my life and it has been so life giving as I am reminded by it daily.

There is something so powerful about placing words that empower you to keep going where you can see them. It is a retraining of the brain, to run towards the storm, to read positive words even when you don’t feel like it, and to keep going, to keep persisting even through the worst of days and the most difficult emotions.

Some of the mantras I have placed on my mirror are:

  • Run towards the storm

  • It’s  a great day to do hard things

  • Trust in God

  • Even when you feel like you can’t, press on

  • Press through the pain

  • Practice Mindfulness

  • Practice Self-love & Compassion

  • You got this

What will your mantras be?

xo Joni Marie

How to Practice Joy in the Midst of Chaos

Over the years, I’ve learned a thing or two about how to manage my own stress (upcoming article coming soon!) breathing technics, the best yoga positions to ease anxiety, and a few self-help reads here and there. Yet in the midst of certain chaotic moments, i.e. those moments that feel soul-sucking and so overwhelming that the only cure seems to be a full pint of Ben & Jerry’s or a trip to the best local donut shop to buy a full dozen of pure sugar and carbs — I lose all that knowledge and basically go into panic mode. BUT I don’t have to get to that point, and neither do you.

I’ve always struggled with anxiety, but after one of the hardest years of my life, this year is a year of taking full control, listening to my mind and body AND making choices that promote self-care rather than people pleasing.

So, here we go, a few simple things you can do when you’ve entered into chaos, but still want to embrace all the joy (trust me, it’s there waiting to give you a big bear hug) AND ease the anxiety that likes to creep its little way back into your life. The anxiety is small compared to the JOY that awaits.

Number 1. Go drink some water, tea or coffee.


This might sound super duper simple, but that’s only because it is. Joy starts with recognizing the simple things in your life that are oh so tangible and always present to partake in. Taking a second to nourish your body with something hydrating or just plain delicious like your favorite tea or coffee, gives you the minutes to remember a few good things your thankful for — which brings me to…

Number 2. Name at least 3 things you’re grateful for.


Try to stick with simplicity on this one as well, naming things that bring a smile to your face because life likes to surprise you with good things — finding that incredible parking spot at the store, because you know you forgot to buy groceries last week and parking close means you can fill up that cart and not have to walk super far to the car. Maybe its that sweet hug your best friend gave you just because they love you and want you to have joy filled day. OR maybe it’s the sunshine on your face as you go on your morning walk to take the dog out. Whatever those three things are, remember them throughout the day, and even better write the down in a journal as positive take aways from that day.

Magic Number 3. Take some time to RELAX.


This one is definitely easier said than done, especially if you struggle with anxiety like me. I've found that a good book or better yet a good movie to watch or go see is a great way to take some time to just relax. Other options are: taking a bath, going for a walk (recommend this only if the weather permits and is comfortable outside), sleep, getting a facial (even if it’s just a diy one at home), and coloring/drawing/writing your thoughts out. Giving yourself some time to just breath and refocus, to better align both mind and body towards embracing joy.

Now, I say all of this not to forget that some days are super tough and just remembering to breathe can be difficult. BUT you got this, joy is always there waiting to give you some love ESPECIALLY on those difficult days. Don’t give up and continue to take time for yourself — to heal, rest, and grow. Remind yourself that you can get through it, AND that true JOY runs deep to your roots.

xo Joni Marie