It’s Alright to Cry
Do you ever have those days where you just want to cry it all out — all of your exhaustion, frustration, pain, grief?
I experienced one of those days recently while walking around the city and cried under a tree in a church courtyard. I didn’t expect to cry while out and about, but all of my emotions from the week hit me with such great force that it all came pouring out. I had my journal with me, so I sat under the tree and allowed myself the space to be still and cry.
When I had taken enough time, I collected my things and grabbed some much needed coffee and food nearby. During my recoup, I had freed up space for reflection.
I used to live under a mindset that I had to keep it all together or think positive to make my life better. Trying to turn negative thoughts off and pretend I wasn’t anxious only made my anxiety and heartache worse.
I have found that crying is incredibly good for me and opens up more space for facing difficult emotions and feelings. It helps me to tap into a deeper part of my soul, to tune in to how my heart feels. It allows me to just feel and not judge myself for it.
I do have moments where I don’t know why I’m crying, but I know my soul and heart know. I trust the process and feel tension leaving my body when I let go of the tears.
For me, crying allows for time to pass, which is usually the self-care I need. Super simple, time.
If I try to do one million things on my task list, reach out to a bunch of friends or even distract myself, I start to feel irritable, grumpy and very anxious.
It’s when I allow myself to turn on a moody playlist, listen to the same songs on repeat, cry, take time, maybe even read, and cry some more that I feel some relief. I may not always feel 100%, usually I want to take a nap after crying and that’s okay.
Crying is exhausting like all of the difficult emotions it helps to release, but it creates space for vulnerability, for introspection. Crying has helped me to learn more about the things in my life that need some attention, some healing or some kind of change.
I cry and now accept myself as a pretty frequent crier. It has helped me and I’m so glad it has opened up a space for more self-love and compassion.
Challenge: Next time life feels overwhelming, don’t bury all of the emotions, grab some tissues and a cozy blanket or find a space that you feel safe, and cry until your heart feels just a little more at ease.
xo Joni Marie